According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, “One in 5 Americans is affected by mental health conditions. Stigma is toxic to their mental health because it creates an environment of shame, fear and silence that prevents many people from seeking help and treatment. The perception of mental illness won’t change unless we act to change it.”
As a way to bring awareness, the Month of May is recognized as Mental Health Month.
I spoke with Hollis M. Evans, LMSW who has a Master of Social Work degree from Wayne State University and a Bachelor’s in Religious Education from Detroit Bible College. Evans founded Center of Behavioral Therapy in 1983 with a desire to provide avenues for the Christian community to receive Christian based therapy. Mr. Evans practice emphasizes in youth and families, marital couples, employee performance, disability claims, and the treatment of grief and loss and depressive disorders.
We jumped into questions like:
A: The stigma of mental health and the black church
B: Is seeing my pastor for an issue the same as seeing a therapist? And,
C: How he incorporates Biblical principles into his therapy sessions?
I’ve been feeling some kinda way for a few weeks now. My quest was how to reestablish boundaries that have been totally broken down. I don’t know who Valen Dawson is, but I want to say thank you for this article. I got the message loud and clear. ~Randi
Your hair is singed from all the times you clipped your own wings just to make someone else happy. Your fingertips, blistered from all the times you forgot about your own needs and gave away what was meant to be yours. Even your voice has been touched by the flame, no longer strong, but shaking and raspy from all the times you wanted to say no, but said yes. You have set yourself on fire to keep others warm, but inside your soul is shivering. Your soul shivers with all the coldness of being forgotten, untouched, and unloved by you.
It’s such an easy thing to get caught up in. You give too much to others, and you are the one left standing out in the cold. You get your value from how much you give to others, rather than by how much you give to yourself. You give too much at the expense of yourself. You do this because you are afraid to look inward, to make the jump, to do what you should to create your own life.
Oh, you have promised yourself you will do it eventually. When the kids are older, when you have more time, when you are retired. When others don’t need you. You have promised and promised, and now you are holding the final match. Dear one, your soul can’t take it any longer. It’s begging you and pleading with you. Your body has been dissolved by the fire. Must you burn your soul, too?